Fourth-generation Maine lobsterman balances work, life and new regulations

Chris Tobey smiles beyond the camera while standing at the wheel of his boat
Chris Tobey drives his boat, the Addison Rose, around the harbor in Kittery. PHOTO: Haley Hersey
Chris Tobey smiles beyond the camera while standing at the wheel of his boat
Chris Tobey drives his boat, the Addison Rose, around the harbor in Kittery. PHOTO: Haley Hersey

By Haley Hersey

For fourth-generation Maine lobsterman Chris Tobey, lobster fishing is a calling. The feeling of going out on the ocean is almost indescribable to him.

“Going down to the boat in the morning, it’s like an adrenaline rush,” he said. “You go down, you turn the key, fire up the diesel. You get to ride out, see the sunrise.” 

Being on the water gives him a feeling of freedom. No day is ever the same, which Tobey enjoys. Seeing the ocean, sunrise, seals, whales and fish is amazing, he said.

Rubber bands and a brush in a bucket
Lobstermen put rubber bands on the claws of lobsters once they are removed from traps. PHOTO: Haley Hersey

Christopher Robert Tobey, Jr. was born on July 22, 1991, in Portland, Maine into a family of fishermen. Tobey spent a lot of time on the docks and water. He watched his father and grandfather talk with other fishermen and learned the lingo. He also learned a lot going to other docks because everyone does things differently.

“As a little kid, I always knew who everyone was and what their boat was,” he said. Tobey’s father always told him fishing wasn’t easy work – but it was there if he wanted it. 

“I started lobster fishing because my father was a lobster fisherman, and when I was a kid that’s all I wanted to do,” he said.

However, fishing is dangerous work. And on May 11, 2008, Tobey’s life changed forever.

“It was Mother’s Day, a Sunday. And we went out to go fishing to fill some orders for a couple of my dad’s friends,” Tobey said. “I remember it was me, my father, and another fisherman, Robbie Blackburn. He was working for my dad. We went out and it was a great day and the weather started to turn.”

They went to haul one of the last traps of the day when they took a big, rogue wave. It caused the stern of the boat to go over the bow, which is called “pitch pulling,” Tobey said. It rolled the boat over and crushed the wheelhouse – where the wheel is – because they were close to rocks.

“I just remember my father pulling me out of the wheelhouse and getting sucked away from the boat,” he said. “My father came after me to try to save me, and he lost his life because of that. He did save me, but I lost him.”

Tobey’s father would be more than proud of him, said Ryan Sirois, his lifelong friend and fellow lobsterman.

“I think the challenges Chris has overcome are the stuff of legend,” Sirois said. “To come back from a fatal fishing accident and continue to fish the very spot his father died is incredible, and he deserves a lot of praise for how well he has done.”

The following year, in 2009, Tobey and Sirois graduated from high school. 

Managing a personal life with an unpredictable career
Tobey met his wife, Lauren Twomey, when he was 20 years old. They have been together for 12 years. He has built a family, which can be challenging for lobstermen with their unpredictable schedules.

Twomey, 32, didn’t grow up in a fishing family, so this way of life was new to her when she met her husband.

“He’s gone from sun up to basically dinnertime,” she said. 

“It’s not easy for a wife in the lobster industry. There’s a lot of stuff that they have to put up with,” Tobey said. “There’s a lot of stuff that you miss. Your work is mostly based around the weather.” 

Chris and Lauren pose together.
Chris and Lauren pose for a photo with their arms around each other. PHOTO: Haley Hersey

The couple have a daughter and son together, Addison Rose, 5, and Calvin, 2.

“For a long time, you don’t really know what you’re working for. You want a better truck, you want a better boat, you want a bigger house – you want nice things, you want nice lobster traps,” Tobey said. “And then you start having kids, and your goals change a little bit. We had my daughter Addison Rose Tobey in 2017 and it’s a whole entire different drive, a different fire in the morning that you want to do well for your kids.”

With the current threats to the lobster industry, from the right whale debate causing changes in regulations to changing water temperatures, the fate of the profession is uncertain. Tobey said he hopes there will be something left for his children, who could be fifth-generation lobstermen if they choose to be.

“If there’s nothing here for them, I don’t want them to be fishermen,” he said. “I want them to go to school and I want them to have a good job.”

Tobey’s family has been proud to be fishermen for four generations, he said. It’s been their way of life. But his children may choose a different path.

“Right now, with the way that things are going in this industry, it’s pretty tough to want them to be fishermen and want to continue this legacy that I’m so proud of,” Tobey said. 

Fishing his own traps in his own boat
Tobey first started lobstering with his own gear when he was 6 years old. His first boat was a 12-foot wooden skiff his dad built in the backyard. He fished a couple traps out of it until he retired the skiff and got a 21-foot fiberglass Novi boat from Nova Scotia. After a couple years, they sold that boat so he could buy a 17-foot skiff he could fish his own traps from at 10 years old, Tobey said.

“And, it was all up from there,” he said.

At 15 years old, he got his first inboard diesel vessel. His current boat, the Addison Rose – named after his daughter – is a 40-foot Novi boat from Nova Scotia. Tobey has never owned a Maine-built boat, only Nova Scotian ones. 

A boat docked in the harbor
Chris Tobey’s boat is named after his daughter, Addison Rose. PHOTO: Haley Hersey

Changing practices to keep up with new regulations
The changes in the industry have increased the time and money needed to run and manage his own fishing operation. Lobstermen now have to apply weak links near the buoy, traps and midpoints of the rope, paint their ropes to show who they belong to and paint more if in federal waters, Tobey said.

“The whole thing makes me sick,” he said. “I have two kids, a wife – I’ve put my whole life into this.” 

While Tobey fishes and provides for the family financially, Twomey stays at home taking care of their kids and handling everything else to keep their family afloat, she said.

Sirois, who is 32-years-old, started lobstering at 17 years old with Tobey. He has spoken recently at various events and conferences on behalf of lobstermen because he, like many lobstermen, worries about the survival of the industry. 

“I love lobstering for the dockside community, even guys that don’t like each other would drop everything to help a fellow fisherman in need,” Sirois said. 

Tobey has never seen a right whale in his life, he said. He’s seen humpback and minke whales. Yet the endangered species, which totals approximately 330, according to the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration, has caused changes that Tobey says poses a threat to his livelihood. 

“It’s making it difficult in day-to-day life,” he said. “The regulations, they’ve stopped for now, but they’re not going to stop until we’re gone.”

“It’s scary because we’re only on his income,” Twomey said. “If he had to go down to 400 traps, we wouldn’t survive.”

A man and woman walk with their arms around each other
Chris Tobey and his wife, Lauren Twomley, survey the family dock. PHOTO: Haley Hersey
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Haley Hersey was born and raised in central Maine. She got her master’s degree in journalism from Emerson College and her bachelor’s degree in media studies from the University of Southern Maine. She has two tuxedo cats she adores and enjoys baking and cooking in her free time.